The Cameron Method - Newsletter Archive
24 December, 1998 - Holiday Mind
As we have moved into the holidays with Thanksgiving and now Christmas, we have been struck by the often subtle and even amazing emotional effects of the season.
Once again, we realize that besides the season of joy that we all look forward to, we also find the conflicts and sorrows of life. We notice that individual lives often don't reflect the images of the Christmas cards. As we wish each other Peace on Earth and Happy Holidays, we have to note that we may be wishing for what is not so now.
Though we have been through this so many times, we still find that certain simple things can set off melancholy, joy, highs and lows. The songs of the season seemed designed to do it. In the poignant song from World War Two, "Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas" we find the lines: ".... Faithful friends that were dear to us, will be near to us once more.... Someday soon we all will be together, if the fates allow. Hang a shining star up upon a silver bough... And have yourself a merry little Christmas now."
This was written at a time of war--where many were painfully aware that they might not get to see their loved ones again. Now, even if we have not lost someone in war, we may have lost loved ones to death through illness or accident. And of course, we have lost friends and loved ones through simply moving away. Distance keeps us apart too. Just "doing life" can be isolating.
So we find ourselves thinking of old friends and old times. And as we do, we can long for those seemingly happier, simpler times. There is one especially positive thing about the past. We know the outcome of those stories that we were living. The suspense is over. We know now if we won or if we lost. We know if things worked out at least somewhat the way we wanted. And hopefully we have resolved the pain that we had if they did not.
Now, here we are in real life, living out the next act of our drama. We must remember these holiday celebrations are about hope and joy. Focus your mind on these things and let go of the rest.
Use the Releasing Strategy to help you let go of the blocks that may be in your way to feeling and expressing the happiness you want in your life especially during the holidays. Repeat each statement following until you can say it easily.
- I release my belief, perception and judgment that I can't relax and be happy during the holidays.
- I release my belief perception and judgment that I have to measure my holidays this year against holidays of the past.
- I release all fear that my holiday won't measure up to what it should.
- I release my belief, perception and judgment that I shouldn't be happy this holiday season.
- I release all unwillingness to accept myself, my mate relationship status, and my power status during the holidays.
- I release all need or desire to yearn for times that are past, or never were.
- I release all need or desire to go on grieving for people I have loved and lost.
- I release all unwillingness to be open to having a happy holiday season regardless of any lack in my life.
- I release my belief, perception and judgment that my holidays this year should be different from what they are.
- I release my belief, perception and judgment that I can't enjoy myself over the holidays.
- I release all fear that I don't have the power I need to enjoy the holidays.
- I release my belief, perception and judgment that I don't have the power I need to help other people during the holidays.
- I release all fear that I don't have all the power I need to give happiness to others who don't have as much control in the world as I do.
Wishing you happy holidays,
Sharon and Clark Cameron
The Cameron Group
Helping People Create Attitudes That Work For Them
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